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Ailis R's Avatar Jump to comment 29 by Ailis R

Really important and true thoughts here, P. Jarrett. I've thought along similar lines myself, being from a mountain state (though middle-class background).

Honestly, putting myself imaginatively into those situations, it would be very difficult to offer comfort to a family of someone whose life was so comfortless. In other circumstances I would say - Life is for the living! So celebrate the good that this person did and experienced, and do what you can to make life even better for those around you.

All of the same applies in this situation, but almost in reverse. What people want to hear in a situation like that is that, despite how sucky life may have been, it will all somehow be better for the deceased in the next world. Nothing you can say is going to offer equal 'comfort' to that lie.

But in the right time, it might be possible to look at what this person did enjoy, to encourage an attitude of gratitude for the happiness he DID have, and then to say: if this person were somehow given his life back - what would he do differently? What would he change? Then in honor of him, let's change it.

I think that is the truest way to honor someone who has died, and derive comfort in honoring their life.

Mon, 31 May 2010 19:59:56 UTC | #475182