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QuestioningKat's Avatar Jump to comment 8 by QuestioningKat

I was wondering what state do you live in? The fact that this man has singled you out and your future husband suggests to me that he has an some awareness of who he is. You said he admitted that he is attracted to men. He has been taught to hate himself and and is looking for acceptance. I'm not a shrink but his trying to save you is a way of projecting that he wants to be saved from the torment of his homosexuality. You will not be able to convince him of there being no God, so my advice is to focus on how his sexual attraction to men is natural. First let him know that you accept him for being who he is.

The question is, how much time do you and your future husband want to spend helping this person? None, then let it go. A lot, then here is a bold and scary course of action. Tell P. that you are concerned that he is a gay man polluted by the religion he was raised in and considering that he is concerned about your soul, you have a proposal for him. For the next three months, each Sunday, the three of you will go church visiting as long as you do not go to a church of his religion and you get to pick the church. No conversations about the service will occur after the service. No proselytizing either. He could go to church twice if he has a problem with missing services at his own religion. Start with a church like the Methodist church for 1 to 2 weeks, then go to United Church of Christ for about three weeks, then go to a Unity church for about 4 to 6 weeks, then go to a Unitarian church for another 5 to 6 weeks. Notice that you are getting progressively liberal in your choices. Use your gaydar to single out couples attending church and then approach them and introduce P.

You will be killing two birds with one stone. All the anger and frustration that you have about religious people will be replaced with actual faces. Imagine all the bizarre stuff you will hear. Take notes and blog about it. Secondly, the tormented young man will start to shed some fundamentalist views since ten weeks in a in an ultra-liberal church is sure to change some of his neural pathways. Churches like Unity and Unitarian are extremely gay friendly.

Yes, I can see your jaw dropped to the floor. I can also hear you think that I'm nuts.

Sat, 24 Mar 2012 01:27:02 UTC | #930020