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Comment 21 by akhalid

What a lovely thing that you've come here looking for answers, for her sake. I wish I had some advice but I don't know your friend. It sounds like you know her pretty well and care deeply about her.

lately, I find myself struggling for how to support her. I mostly stay quiet and listen....still I wish I knew what to say.

Staying quiet and listening is often what people really need. It's hard when we don't know what to say but the fact that we listen and are trying to understand what to say is often much more valuable than "having the right thing to say". The worst thing you can do is tosay something to make yourself feel better. It sounds like you already understand that.

I wish you luck. It sounds like she has a very good friend in you and she probably knows it. If you really get stuck, tell her you don't know what to say. She might give you some hints. Between you, you'll probably come up with some good strategies.

Wed, 25 Apr 2012 06:51:36 UTC | #937140